![]() ![]() ![]() What will happen as you build these Tiny Habits, is that you’ll start to become a person who feels the emotion of fear and then you take a little action anyway towards what you want to achieve.When we feel overwhelmed, our brain switches to fear of success, fear of failure, fear of embarrassment, fear of shame, etc. What puts most people in the fight, freeze or flight mode is when they think of the Big Goal and they think of all the things they have to do – and then feel overwhelmed.You can stack Tiny Habits on top of each other.Simple right? Some Keys to Remember with Habits. For example: When these 7 days are finished I will add another 250 words to the words I’m already writing everyday. I’ve chosen to just do it.Īlso, don’t forget to Celebrate your One Tiny Action □ģ.After you have done that One Tiny Action for 7 days, then ADD One More Tiny Habit to your daily goals. Just add something really small to the habit you’ve already started developing in your life. Since my big fear has been that my writing won’t be good enough, it has caused me to procrastinate on writing my romance novels.įor example: My One Tiny Action that I’ve chosen to work on, is to write 250 words every single day – without judging my words, and writing those words wether I felt like writing or not. For example: For this step I wrote down my #1 fear: I have a big fear that my writing won’t be good enough and that readers won’t want to read my romance novels.Ģ.Write down One Tiny Action that you can take immediately – in the next 24 hours – that will move you AWAY from the fear you have and TOWARDS the goal you want to achieve. Think about a tiny step you could take that would move you in the direction of your goal. Here are 3 Steps to Begin Tiny Habits to Help You Reach Your Goals:ġ.Take a sheet of paper and write down One Fear you realize that has been holding you back from reaching your goals. Write down whatever the biggest fear is for you that you feel stops you from achieving your goals. I’ve been choosing everyday to take work on Tiny Habits, and it’s been so encouraging. I have taken steps to understand how to change my unhelpful habit loop. I didn’t want to continue to let procrastination or fear win, so in the last few months I’ve been learning more about how to get rid of both. Fear – whether conscious or unconscious – causes you to procrastinate and stops you from achieving your goals. I’ve had to consciously work toward getting out of this destructive habit loop. My negative habit loop has gone something like this: my writing isn’t good enough nobody will read my books maybe I should quit now, I’ll most likely fail anyway…. I’ve worked hard to push past resistance that showed up in the form of my inner critic. Since that time(many years ago), I’ve literally struggled and battled everyday to get words on the page. I believed and accepted his words to be truth. I had a elementary school teacher who told me that my writing was like chicken scratchings, and since he was the teacher I respected his opinion. Most of the time we have these fears and don’t know how to get out of it, which has definitely been my struggle. These fears have become a unconscious pattern that repeats itself over and over again. In other words, chances are very high that the fears holding you back from achieving your goals are possibly 10, 20 or even 30 years in the making. From a neuroscience perspective this is called a Habit Loop. Each trigger in your brain results in a behavior and every behavior results in a reward. Many of our habits get triggered by things outside of us(smell, sounds, etc.). Left unchecked, fear can become a unconscious loop that goes round and round in our heads. Here’s what I’ve been learning and have come to realize about myself: Fear can be a habit. I felt like I was in Psychology 101 again, but this time I was Pavlov’s dog stuck in a repeating habit pattern. I’ve needed to get out of what has seemed like a pattern of fear and procrastination. Let me share with you what I’ve been learning… 3 Steps to Start Tiny Habits… In his inspiring TEDx talk – Forget Big Change, Start With One Tiny Habit – BJ Fogg shares tips on how you can change your behavior for good. ![]() Like floss one tooth, do two pushups or drink one sip of water. BJ Fogg – a Behavioral Scientist and originator of the term – says that a Tiny Habit is when you do something very, very small. When you start Tiny Habits in your writing life, it helps you reach your goals faster. ![]()
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